Opinions and social media
I have just returned to Virginia Tech for my second spring semester, and I have been meaning to write a blog post for some time. I just couldn’t find something to write about… until today.
One of the largest foundations of the American society is the freedom of the press, or as it is often called – freedom of speech. It has been a fundamental belief since our country was founded, even though there are several limitations on what can be stated (via libel and slander laws). But for the most part, we the people of the United States are free to state our opinions. The popularity of social media has both increased the number and variety of opinions which are publicly expressed.
Recently, my several students in the NJROTC unit at my high school were selected for a very prestigious honor, presenting the colors (flags) at an official inaugural event. They were selected from a pool of units, and the incoming presidential administration specifically requested a “diverse group of cadets” for the event. The students got to selecting who would attend the event, and my sister was dismayed to learn that they had not selected a female for the event. She asked to participate in the event, and the group accommodated her request by adding her to the group (even changing their set-up to do so).
Yesterday, the news stations in my area broke the news about Maury’s participation in this event. A large majority of my friends on Facebook shared the story or commented on it. Comments varied from avid support to statements that they were “embarrassed” to have graduated from Maury. I ask everyone to view this event not as the cadets agreeing and supporting President Trump, rather that they are participating in a historic national event. My sister is one of the most ardent opposers to Mr. Trump’s presidency. But she is participating because of the opportunity she has been afforded.
In our modern society, we are quick to judge and often prematurely jump to conclusions. One such article can be found below:
Daddy daughter dates are everything that is wrong with the world
This article is in response to a post from a popular Instagram and Facebook personality who highlighted the fact that her husband takes her daughter out for a “date” once a month. The writer of the article berates the father for being the “example of what is wrong with the male parent in today’s society” – stating that he should do more than give his daughter one special day a month. Unfortunately, I could not reach the same conclusion as the author here, because the post writer doesn’t list her complaints about her husband. I believe that he sees his daughter every day, and pays her the respect and attention she deserves.
It is important to think before we act or speak. We detest our president-elect for quick irrational tweets but do the same things ourselves. Yes, bad things happen in this world. Yes, people can be awful. But if we simply jump to conclusions about people, how will we ever find out the true story. Has this woman asked the mother how her husband behaves? Has anything more than reading that post occurred before her response was written?
Another great example of this can be found with Chip and Joanna Gaines, stars of HGTV’s “Fixer Upper”. Several months ago, Buzzfeed posted an article about how the church the Gaines attended was “anti-gay”. Therefore, by association, they must be homophobic as well. This same associative logic has been applied to the election, naming people who voted for Trump as misogynistic, racist, and homophobic simply because of the other people and groups who supported Trump. Buzzfeed failed to ask the Gaines for comment and instead lumped them in with the church they supported. This left both the Gaines and the church they attended in a situation. The church had simply stated that they did not support gay marriage, an opinion which many American’s support. But the church was not homophobic, as the article suggested. Rather they would support anyone who attends their church and tries to educate them in the ways of the Bible.
Modern society seeks to be politically correct in an effort to be 100% inclusive. But the truth about life is that nobody is ever 100% inclusive. Can we strive to be more accommodating and accepting? Sure. But that is truly a 2-way street. Yes, you have the right to say what you want. But do you need to decry someone else’s opinion simply because you find it “antiquated” and “exclusive”? Because by that action, haven’t you excluded that person’s opinion and beliefs? Letting someone state their opinion doesn’t mean you support it.
You, the citizens of America have an amazing power. You can impact the world and the society around you. But that takes action that can make an effect. I completely support the sharing of opinions, but that includes hearing other people’s opinions and working towards a compromise. You have to give a little to get a little.
By all means, protest policies which you don’t support and argue for those which you support. But don’t waste your time with pointless arguments and assumptions. By all means, detest fathers’ who aren’t active in their children’s lives. But don’t use a guy who is making an effort as the scapegoat for all the men who don’t. If you aren’t sure he’s a part of the problem, don’t place false blame. Jumping to conclusions harms both parties. It damages the reputation of both the accused and the accuser.
So try your best to express your opinion meaningfully. Do your research, think before you post. Allow others to state their opinions as well, and provide thoughtful and considerate responses. Don’t be a part of the force which further divides the country, rather act to create unity and progress.